How do you forgive?
I mean sure, we know that forgiveness is for us, and not the other person, it frees us, but HOW do you actually do it? It’s not a case of saying, -I forgive you – just giving it lip service. Empty words.
How do you honestly mean it?
How do you forgive yourself?
I think forgiveness is the key to moving forward from the past to the future. It just stops things eating you up.
One of the fastest techniques I think, to get me there and create the shift to be able to forgive, to bring the focus back to me and not on what the other person did to me…
is Ho’oponopono….an ancient Hawaiian practise meaning reconciliation and forgiveness.
In 1976 Morrnah Simeona a Kahuna, adapted the healing tradition into a modern day practise and it has been brought to the west by Dr Hew Len. He has an amazing background, he healed a ward of criminally insane patients over 4 years using this technique. Google his name.
The essence of ho’oponoponpo is:
I’m sorry, please forgive me, I love you, Thank You.
Its a mantra we say over, meaning peace begins with us.
Dr Hew believes that if we take 100% responsibility for what we experience in life then we can go onto the next step where we say I’m sorry, please forgive me, I love you, Thank you.
We are in essence saying to the divine in us, I’m sorry for whatever it is in me that caused this. I’m 100% responsible so please convert all memories, blocks, debts, errors problems to nothing.
So if its in our experience, it is in us. If it shows up in our lives then we are responsible otherwise it wouldn’t show up.
100% responsiblity does not mean that it is our fault or we are to blame, but that we can only heal ourselves, we can’t heal another. But by healing ourselves we do our part for the collective consciousness and so therefore we are healing others.
If we are 100% responsible for the way we perceive the world, then in turn we will shift our perception and the world will change.
The way I see it also, is that we carry everyone in our lives inside ourselves. They may be out of our lives now but we still carry them within us energetically. I think starting off releasing ourselves from this person within us is a great start, its much easier to do than thinking we are giving the actual person permission to carry on hurting us like they did in the past.
Another technique you might want to try also is, each night for two weeks in bed, think of all the things you wish for yourself, great health, alot of money, great relationships, and then wish that for the person you cant feel you can forgive. Because what we can’t give to others we can’t allow for ourselves in our own lives.