Empathy – Your feelings or my feelings?
One of the banes of my existance is empathy.
If I was being PC then I should say, its one of my biggest learning curves. And I’ve by no means mastered it at all.
The best book I’ve read on Empathy so far is 25 Ways to Fly In Spirit by Rose Rosetree, and she has another book out as well since this was written.
Empathy is just so natural to me. For whatever reason I developed it, it’s second nature to me. It works to my advantage during readings but I wish I could switch it off a bit better.
So what is empathy?
It’s when you can feel another person’s feelings. Or their physical aches and pains. You’re more aware of what’s going on for them than you are for yourself. It’s walking in their shoes.
We all have it to a cerain degree, expect for psychopaths, but for alot of sensitive people, we have it to the nth degree. We over empathise.
For instance we probably all know what it feels like when you walk into a house where the people have been arguing, you can cut the air with a knife. But for sensitive people its like we were the ones in that arguement. It’s happened in our body.
I feel it when people are sitting on their feelings and denying they’re feeling that way. I especially am sensitive to unexpressed anger, just brewing under the surface.
I was always sensitive as a child, but in my 40’s it’s got worse, it might be because I’ve spent alot of years fine tuning my psychic abilities so I’m more sensitive. And hormones lol
I have to work hard at staying centred and talking myself out of the feelings I get when I travel on certain roads. Alot of fear on some roads.
And there’s no way I can go into a crowd now. That’s way too much tangled energy for my sensitive nerve endings.
Something Rose Rosetree suggests in her book is that you do exercises to keep bringing you back to your own body. I have isolated how I do this, I can just even think of a person and often times I can feel what theyre feeling. As if there’s a window and every time I peek out it I go to that place of empathy. I just have to keep retraining myself not to look. Hard though because I work this way in my readings.
So are you empathic and what do you do to reign it in?