Why Women Find It Hard To Kick Those Jerks To The Kerb
So you’re with a guy, he’s a bit of a “bad boy”, but that’s ok, you don’t want to be living with Mr Boring and Predictable.
You are totally into being in a relationship where you accept the other person for all their strengths and weaknesses, after all, isn’t that how you would want to be treated?
For some of the time he does his thing and you do yours. You like to be independent and you don’t necessarily want your guy thinking that all you want to do is hang around him all the time as if he’s the most important person in the world.
You don’t want to cramp his style. You also don’t want to appear needy, cause you know guys don’t like needy women.
But you love this guy.
You think he’s so hot.
He’s the one for you. You just know it. You feel it in your bones. Every time you see him your heart does literally skip a beat.
What’s more you love being in love. It just makes the world a brighter place and life seems to flow better when you’re in love.
You will move heaven and earth to make this relationship work.
He really does light up your life, when you see him you feel like celebrating that you feel so happy.
Never mind about the things he does that bug you, you’re not going to be one of those nagging girlfriends who’s always trying to mold their man into the way they want them to be.
You know you can’t change someone other than yourself.
The fact that a few times you’ve caught him out not being where he said he was going to be, or he doesn’t turn up when he says he would turn up, isn’t such a big deal. You don’t want to make mountains out of molehills. Life’s too short to be nit-picky.
That’s minor and just one of those miscommunications.
He’s a busy man.
You also know he’s insecure, you know he likes attention from women, he craves attention way more than you do. You never ask him who he’s texting, he has a life separate from you, you don’t have to be ALL of his world.
That’s ok, obviously he’s lacking from childhood, he had it harder than you.
There’s a whole laundry list of issues that deep down bug you about his behaviour, but who’s keeping count, you’re not going to be one of those judgemental women.
After all, you’re not perfect.
Here’s what’s happening.
You are making decisions about your relationship based on how you feel, not on what he is doing.
Your friends have probably told you countless times that how he acts and how he treats you isn’t ok. You may have even given up telling them about everything he does, or you water it down.
You want him to be good enough. You want him to be the one.
Your feelings tell you he’s the one.
You like being in love.
But the problem is you like being in love way more than you like having confidence and self esteem and being respected.
Love is such an endorphin high that it overrides your real feelings and your intuition.
You have to look at his behaviour and what he’s doing and address that, otherwise this guy is walking all over you and you are being a doormat and letting him.
How about placing all that love into yourself and stop expecting someone who isn’t capable of loving you to do it for you.
Kick him to the kerb.
If he’s got it in him to love you properly and change his behaviour then he’ll make the effort, otherwise you’re worth more than that.